Spa Talk: Please Don't Call Me a Masseuse or Masseur
Spa Talk: Please Don’t Call Me a Masseuse or Masseur
The association between massage and prostitution has been a disservice to the spa industry all over the world. There are many people who discourage their children to pursue a career in massage therapy for exactly that reason. With a shortage of skilled therapists in the spa industry, this is not a good thing.
Susie Ellis, SpaFinder Insider
The term “masseuse” and “masseur” are like fingernails on a chalkboard to me. Every time I hear someone use them, I cringe. That’s because I know that practitioners of massage much prefer the terms “massage therapist” or “licensed massage therapist.” I think it would benefit us all to begin using these more professional titles.

The term “masseuse” and “masseur” are like fingernails on a chalkboard to me. Every time I hear someone use them, I cringe. That’s because I know that practitioners of massage much prefer the terms “massage therapist” or “licensed massage therapist.” I think it would benefit us all to begin using these more professional titles.
It isn't just outside of the industry where I hear masseuse and masseur used. I was in the Philippines a few weeks ago and heard it used by many IN the spa industry which prompted me to include this plea for a vocabulary change in the speech I gave. According to the dictionary, a masseur is a person who performs massage professionally and a masseuse is a female person who does so. The Merriam-Webster dictionary says that the term massage itself comes from the French masser to massage, and from the Arabic massa to stroke. It means “manipulation of tissues (as by rubbing, kneading, or tapping) with the hand or an instrument for therapeutic purposes.”
Although it is not technically incorrect to use the terms masseuse and masseur, in some places the terms have adopted an unsavory association. This stems from the fact that it is illegal to advertise prostitution in the U.S. and some establishments began advertising under the heading “massage parlor” to get around the law. At the time, massage therapy wasn’t yet the respectable profession of alternative and complementary medicine that it is today and the terms masseuse and masseur, which were widely used at that time, became associated with the sex industry.
The association between massage and prostitution has been a disservice to the spa industry all over the world. There are many people who discourage their children to pursue a career in massage therapy for exactly that reason. With a shortage of skilled therapists in the spa industry, this is not a good thing.
What do you think about all of us in the spa industry starting an industry-wide movement which would help educate the public, the media and even others in our arena to eradicate the terms masseuse and masseur from our industry’s vocabulary? The talented and hard working massage therapists who give so much of themselves both physically and emotionally to help heal us would probably appreciate it.
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A note.....I originally wrote this blog about a week ago but decided to edit it today, November 22nd, after receiving a slew of emails from people who were offended by something I wrote in the original post. While I don't want to offend anyone else, I also want to be transparent about what I said. Therefore you will see the heated comments below which came in referencing several of the terms I used to describe those who say masseuse or masseur rather than massage therapist. Ouch...I got the message and realize I should have come from a point of education rather than criticism. My apologies.
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17 Comments:
Your comments, "I find that a person who uses the term "masseuse" or "masseur" is generally either not very sophisticated when it comes to the spa experiences or is someone of an older age," is not only rude, distasteful and ill-structured as a sentence. But, also, and I quote directly from your own words, "not very sophisticated."
I WILL call my massage therapist - a "masseuse" - if she or anyone else has a problem with that term then I suggest they refuse the $250 I'm paying them for their services. I seriously doubt that is going to happen however.
So, get off your soap box and give someone a massage!
I agree with you on the sentence structure problem....nevertheless, despite the fact I am not a massage therapist, I stand by my plea on their behalf. I am sure your massage therapist will accept the fact that you call her a masseuse, however it would be a simple kindness for you to make this change in terminology.
There are other examples of changes in terminology through history which moved toward more respectful titles. One recent one - stewardess to flight attendant - comes to mind. And remember that one of the reasons prices for massage continue to escalate is the fact that there is a shortage of trained therapists.
I am License massage therapist graduated from Florida since then I have been educating people about the term Masseuse, therefore I support this recent Post about: Please Don't Call me a Masseuse or Masseur.
I also encourage fellows therapist to continue to advance in our career now that to be a massage therapist there is a lot to know.
Let's be honest. NOBODY wrote about the term ‘masseur’ or ‘masseuse’. And if they did, so what? Your answer insulted people who still use the terms - not out of any lack of respect, but just because the general populace just wants a massage, not a pompous term.
People who use the words "masseuse" or "masseur" were taught that that was the proper word for someone who does massage. In fact, it had an air of exclusivity, panache and sophistication when they learned it, since they are French words. As a psychologist/psychoanalyst who is still, occasionally, referred to as a "shrink" I say, get over it.
The bottom line is: what you are called will change with the times; it is what you do and the relationship you develop with your clients that really matters. If it irritates you to explain to your clients that you would prefer to be called by something other than what they are calling you, I think you should look inside yourself...
A regular massage therapist client,
Susan Hans, Ph.D. (You can call me whatever you like: just show up, pay your bill and let me do my work!)
THANK YOU FOR CONFIRMING SOMETHING THAT HAS BOTHERED ME THE PAST 13 YEARS THAT I HAVE BEEN A PROFESSIONAL MASSAGE THERAPIST. NOT ONLY IS IS DEMEANING AND DEROGATORY AND JUST DOWN RIGHT RUDE TO CALL A MASSAGE THERAPIST A MASSEUSE...
FIRST LET ME REMIND PEOPLE THAT NOT ONLY DO THEY SAY MASSEUSE THEY HAVE THIS RING IN THEIR VOICE KIND OF A LAUGH SNICKERING TYPE OF TONE WHEN THEY SAY IT...PLEASE LET ME TELL YOU THAT NOT ONLY DID I NEED TO TAKE ONE YEAR OF PREREQUISITES IN MEDICAL TERMINOLOGY,PSYCHOLOGY,ALLIED HEALTH AND BASIC ENGLISH AND MATH COURSE COLLEGE LEVEL. THEN I HAD TO SIT IN A CLASS OF ANATOMY AND PHYSIOLOGY FOR TWO YEARS THEN TAKE A CPR CLASS AND PASS A WEEKEND COURSE AT THE LOCAL MEDICAL COLLEGE IN CADAVER AND PASS THEN TAKE A MEDICAL BOARD TEST AND COMPLETE A MASSAGE THREE TIMES A WEEK ON OTHER PEOPLE THEN GIVE 35 MASSAGES AND PAY FOR 25 MASSAGES TO SEE WHO DOES WHAT STYLE...
AFTER $35,000 OF DEBT AND MIND BLOWING TESTS EVERY WEEK SOMETIMES TWICE A WEEK PLEASE...PLEASE DON'T CALL ME A MASSEUSE PLEASE...AND NOT ONLY THAT I WOULD APPRECIATE SOME RESPECT WHEN I ASK YOU MEDICAL QUESTIONS ITS BECAUSE I'M A PROFESSIONAL CONFIDENTIAL MEDICALLY LICENSED INDIVIDUAL. I'M NOT ASKING YOU MEDICAL QUESTIONS TO ANNOY YOU OR BE NOSEY I CAN'T DISCUSS ANYTHING ABOUT THE CLIENTS OR PATIENTS ANYWAYS...SO ITS ASHAME THE COSMETOLOGY BOARD DOES NOT GO BY THE SAME RULES BECAUSE BOY COULD THAT GROUP USE SOME PROFESSIONAL MANNERS AND RULES ABOUT WORKING WITH CLIENTS...
SO YES PLEASE DON'T CALL ME A MASSEUSE BECAUSE GUESS WHAT I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE IMPLYING...JOKES ON YOU YOU UN-SAVY SPA GOER
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Hi Susie,
I recently made a note of the two terms: masseur (female) and masseuse (female) because of a recent misunderstanding.
We were recently at a resort and wanted to specify the fact that my husband preferred a female rather than a male. I had no preference.
We were given a man “massage therapist” for him and a female “massage therapist” for me. How can one avoid this in the future if you are now saying these terms are outdated? I may be older but I am not unsophisticated and I travel often and deal with language barriers from time to time.
Thanks,
Linda C
Actually the description in your email would be ideal. You would ask for a male massage therapist or a female massage therapist. I do agree that the one benefit of the terms masseuse and masseur is that they give gender information. On the other hand I have heard many people use the term masseuse when they meant masseur.
Hi Susie,
I have been a licensed massage therapist for over 16 years. I appreciate you taking the time and space on the SpaFinder website to educate the general public about the preferred title of people who are massage therapists. The terms massage therapist definitely distances us from people who are not licensed/certified/registered legitimate therapists. Thanks!
I don't find the word masseuse or masseur offensive at all. And I like knowing the gender of the person who's going to work on me. I'm not going to stop using it because it's not offensive.
Yes, it's a shame that those involved in prostitution will use that word for themselves. But don't forget, stippers have called themselves "dancers" for eons. But dancers still call themselves dancers.
And women that pose in porno magazines call themselves "models". I don't think Tyra Banks, or Heidi Klum are running away from being called models because of that.
People who are not legit will always give a moniker of legitimacy to what they do.
What happens when the prostitutes start calling themselves massage therapists? I'm sure many have already. You going to come up with yet another name for the profession?
What's wrong with the word Masseuse?
I'm 38 years old - not some old fogey - and i looked up the word in the dictionary and the definition of Massuese is " a licensed woman who gives massages professionally".
Massage Therapist sounds stupid and pretentious.
However, if you're going to make such a broad statement that the term Masseuse, or Masseur is so terribly offensive, you should tell us why.
I'll continue to use the word until there's a reason not to.
How many strippers call themselves "Dancers", how many women that pose for porno magazines call themselves "Models" and porno "stars" (their words) call themselves "Actresses". But I don't see dancers, models and actresses shunning the terms because some who are illegitimate are also using the term.
The non-legit "masseuses" will start to call themselves massage therapists, and so what next? Another term will be have to be thought up?
I have no objection to someone calling themselves a massage therapist, but I have no ill intentions when I call them a masseuse or masseur.
Read your article on calling massage therapist's masseuse!!! Personally I thought you were a little rough on the normal person. Bob has a massage twice a week and I know we are "older" but I don't think you would classify us as unsophisticated. Bad choice of words. Better to say that people don't know what is correct. - like me criticizing someone cause they cant pronounce the name of the grape or know how to order which wine with which food. Most people don't have a clue so you educate them gently. Thought you should know how it came across.!!
Hi Susie ... I know when you're in the midst of "simple" write up and you're just expressing your opinions and thoughts, things can just come out wrong. You handled your "bad sentence structure" well.
Along with the theme of this whoel write up ... I am a licensed esthetician and spa health writer. A couple of years ago when my boyfriend at the time, who is Phillipino, explained to his parents when they asked what I do, "She visits spas and gets massages; you know facials and stuff." With a raised eyebrow and a disapproving look ... well, it was clear that she had a different idea in mind of what a "massage" entailed!
Interesting post! In my job I deal with a lot of massage therapists and I know first hand they really hate referring them anything other than "massage therapist". I have seen that a lot of the professionals dont even want to have the word "massage" in their business's name. They prefer "body&mind", "body treatments" etc. which I think make sense.
In the contemporary Spa Industry, the noun 'therapist' is used to describe a trained provider of different services including massage, hence massage therapist.
The words masseur and masseuse are just other names to describe the work carried out. While these words have been misappropriated by some people, there are still many massage therapists who do not mind being called masseurs since it is not what they are called, but what they can do that constitute their professionalism.
There is another problem! Since Spa has become an International lifestyle, in some languages, the words masseur or masseuse or massage therapist are almost identical! What shall we do?
If any thing has to be done, it is the control of who can use the description masseur or masseuse rather than asking the massage therapist to change the name of their profession. For our consolation, I suppose the current trend in using the description Massage Therapists already help distinguish masseurs or masseuses from the Sex Therapists.
I personally prefer spa therapist, as many massage therapists should be trained and licensed in other body work.
There is nothing wrong with the terms masseuse or masseur - actually these terms are from the French language and are common in Europe at every spa. If Americans don't like or have trouble pronouncing these terms, then so be it, but don't belittle those who have used massage before it became popular in the U.S. - it is in the United States that masseur and masseuse was misinterpeted, so don't just try to change terms because of the ignorance of some!
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